So I was running into this and the solution (for me) was somewhat embarrasing. I had copied and pasted a bunch of the code from the Apple docs..and they left out an obvious step. They never actually set the match's delegate!
My code now is:
- (void)matchmakerViewController:(GKMatchmakerViewController *)viewController didFindMatch:(GKMatch *)match {
[self dismissModalViewControllerAnimated:YES];
self.myMatch = match; // Use a retaining property to retain the match.
self.myMatch.delegate = self; // THIS LINE WAS MISSING IN THE APPLE DOCS. DOH.
// Start the game using the match.
NSLog(@"Match started! Expected Player Count:%d %@",match.expectedPlayerCount, match.playerIDs);}
Once I actually set the match delegate, the functions get called. Doh.