First of : great question, and about time someone asked this! :-)
Yes, the fact an ORM typically returns all columns for a database table is something you need to take into consideration when designing your systems. But as you've mentioned - there are ways around this.
The main fact for me is to be aware that this is what happens - either a SELECT * FROM dbo.YourTable
, or (better) a SELECT (list of all columns) FROM dbo.YourTable
.
This is not a problem when you really want the whole object and all its properties, and as long as you load a few rows, that's fine, too - the convenience beats the raw performance.
You might need to think about changing your database structures a little bit - things like:
maybe put large columns like BLOBs into separate tables with a 1:1 link to your base table - that way, a select on the parent tables doesn't grab all those large blobs of data
maybe put groups of columns that are optional, that might only show up in certain situations, into separate tables and link them - again, just to keep the base tables lean'n'mean
Also: avoid trying to "arm-wrestle" your ORM into doing bulk operations - that's just not their strong point.
And: keep an eye on performance, and try to pick an ORM that allows you to change certain operations into e.g. stored procedures - Entity Framework 4 allows this. So if the deletes are killing you - maybe you just write a Delete
stored proc for that table and handle that operation differently.