sorry i didnt launch the VNC SERVER ....
but now the connection is ok but nothing appear on my screen :
Fri Jul 27 09:57:29 2018
vncext: VNC extension running!
vncext: Listening for VNC connections on local interface(s), port 5901
vncext: created VNC server for screen 0
/usr/bin/startxfce4: X server already running on display :1
gpg-agent[862]: WARNING: "--write-env-file" is an obsolete option - it has no effect
gpg-agent: a gpg-agent is already running - not starting a new one
(xfce4-session:849): xfce4-session-WARNING **: gpg-agent returned no PID in the variables
(xfce4-session:849): xfce4-session-WARNING **: xfsm_manager_load_session: Something wrong with /home/jamal/.cache/sessions/xfce4-session-kali:1, Does it exist? Permissions issue?
(xfsettingsd:878): xfsettingsd-WARNING **: Failed to get the _NET_NUMBER_OF_DESKTOPS property.
(xfwm4:866): xfwm4-WARNING **: Error opening /dev/dri/card0: Permission denied
** (light-locker:875): ERROR **: Environment variable XDG_SESSION_PATH not set. Is LightDM running?
Fri Jul 27 09:59:01 2018
Connections: accepted: [::1]::41716
SConnection: Client needs protocol version 3.8
SConnection: Client requests security type VncAuth(2)
Fri Jul 27 09:59:05 2018
VNCSConnST: Server default pixel format depth 24 (32bpp) little-endian rgb888
VNCSConnST: Client pixel format depth 6 (8bpp) rgb222
VNCSConnST: Client pixel format depth 24 (32bpp) little-endian rgb888
above the vnc log.
my user has all admin privilege in sudoers files ( ALL:ALL:ALL ).